The connections with my wife and my children are more powerful, more meaningful.
When I started this process, I felt out of control. A strange feeling because I seemed to be in control of quite a lot. A great job, a wonderful family, a quaint neighborhood and a decent relationship with my parents.
Yet, quite often, my emotions were not connected to any of those things. I often felt anxious, depressed and disconnected from something inside of myself that I had not explored. I questioned what I was doing, who I had become and if I would ever be any different. I wanted to align what I knew to be true of myself (which turned out to be very little) with what purpose I may find in my life (without knowing even abstractly what that was). I wanted to get to know myself, not what others thought of me. I wanted to heal.
Today I feel more connected to who I am and who I really want to be. I feel like I was pried away from some comfortable construct that was also contributing to my discontent, and dropped on a familiar, yet uncomfortable and unknown road to self-actualization.
Do I feel delivered from a life of difficulty? No, yet I feel more confident that I can courageously face and overcome that difficulty. I feel more grounded, connected, and present. And because of this, the connections with my wife and my children are more powerful, more meaningful. And above all, I'm connected with myself, providing the grace, the patience and the safety needed to parent my inner child. I'm still on that unknown road, but I am excited to be here and to traverse courageously onward.
The road to healing can be a long one and I am forever grateful that Andrew was with me, helping me traverse those early miles. The process itself was difficult but manageable and not at all what I had expected, though truth be told, I don't really know what I had expected . It required an early trust in myself to uncover, in a safe space, the unprocessed child trauma and work to release it. In that safe space, Andrew guided and encouraged the work that only I could inevitably do. In the end, I was given a tool to continue the processing and integration of that trauma, the confidence to do it myself, and the means to move forward. I was also given the ability to recognize parts of who I truly am and that it was "simply enough to be me". Thank you Andrew for your contribution to this.
Bryant Goodall US